Naeem's Blog

I’ve been a long time reader of Tariq Nelson and have recently benefited from the writings of brothers AbdurRahman and Charles. These writers focus on issues mostly relating to Black American Muslims (BAMs), such as the BAM identity, marriage/divorce, education, American politics, and so on.

One of the points that they are all in agreement upon is the rampant racism against BAMs found in the immigrant communities and the need for BAMs to finally step out of the shadow and create their own identity. These brothers are a testimony to the (relatively) new direction that BAMs are taking in redefining themselves and their role in the socio-political landscape of America. Their call for self-empowerment within the Muslim community and determination to create their own space is long overdue.

I commend them on this most laudable of efforts.

Having said that, I hope this effort is not carried out at the cost of relations with the immigrant community. That is why I was disturbed to see this recent post by Br. AbdurRahman where he expressed his criticism of Uncle Tom (my description, not his) BAM’s, who have sold out their people, and the immigrant American Muslim community who they supposedly serve. Please read his piece as well as my comment which I have reproduced below:

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AA- Abdur-Rahman,

Thanks for the background. I must admit that as I was reading your post and your understanding of the dynamics between the immigrant community and the BAM community, I immediately thought about the way Malcolm X viewed the politics of the civil rights movement, where the white establishment handpicked and vetted the black leaders who were approved to deliver a controllable ideology.

Does that sound about right?

But then my second thought was to question your suppositions. While no one can deny the outright racism that exists in the immigrant community against the BAM community, am I being naïve to suggest that talk of a conspiracy to subjugate the BAM is a bit too much?

Of course there are problems between the various communities, but to talk of a conscious effort to suppress the BAM voice is taking it to a paranoid extreme, IMO

I agree that the BAM voice needs to be heard and included in the larger American Muslim conversation (and simultaneously developed outside of that conversation, similar to the Arab and Pakistani communities who are forging their own identities).

I agree that the immigrant community had a role in advocating the ‘Just Muslim’ attitude that has stifled the growth of the BAM and resulted in a general identity crisis.

I also agree that for too long, the immigrant community has hijacked the dialogue within/out the American Muslim community and that a balance desperately needs to be achieved.

But a conspiracy? Really? Do you believe that accusations of a conspiracy are productive towards redressing these wrongs? Instead of working constructively, your approach comes off as a tad bit negative.
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I understand that the dynamics of this troubled relationship are very complex and multifaceted, but they need to get addressed in a proper manner. I readily acknowledge that an element of the solution necessitates that each community carry out internal programs to the exclusion of the other, but there must be a joint effort between both sides to build/maintain bridges and keep the channels of communication open. I fear that comments such as Br. AbdurRahman's reflect an attitude antagonistic towards such joint efforts.

If the two communities ignore each other while trying to empower and enable themselves, the soil is fertile for the weeds of animosity and hostility to creep into the fruits of any future endeavors.

As requested by a commenter, I created this open thread for any questions on life in Saudi Arabia. I've only been here 5 years, but I'll try and share whatever information I can.

But first, allow me to share a conversation I was having with a few friends last week.

We were discussing how people who settle down in Saudi have to really *want* to be here. There are so many obstacles and inconveniences here that make it actually very difficult to stay. To use an IT term, the environment here is not the most 'user-friendly'. And so it seems that those who have chosen to remain (for other than financial reasons) must really have a strong desire to stay.

Of course, no place on earth is perfect, but it sometimes seems like society here is trying to just make it difficult. From little things like the rude Saudi ladies at the checkout aisle to bigger problems like the bureaucratic run-around you go through every time you interact with a government ministry, there are really so many issues that can drive a person mad.

But at the same time, there are so many nice features in this bizarro world, that if you're willing to overlook all the surrounding negative, life here can actually be quite enjoyable.

OK, so I'll start with the questions put forth by Anonymous:

"is it true what they say about Saudi being a place you can save? compared to living in the US for instance?"

That depends on how much you make here versus what you were making there. But generally speaking, its true that you can save here. Cost of living here is cheaper than in the US. Prices were steady for the first 4 years of my stay and only in the past year have prices really started to rise.

Depending on where you live in the US, rent may be cheaper here in Riyadh. Food is overall cheaper and of course, gasoline is practically given away at the pump (45cents/gallon). There is no sales tax or income tax here, so you save there as well. And if you can adjust to local goods, as opposed to needing expensive products imported from the West, then you really start saving.

"Like, whats a decent salary? And you can compare the salaries there to the salaries to give us an idea of what is affordable in a said amount of salary there. How much do certain schools cost? How about compounds? What is there for women to do?"

Its hard to talk about a good salary because everyone has a different standard, but let me try to give you an idea. Someone with three kids making $65K in the US (living in the costly NorthEast) can afford the same lifestyle here with a job paying 10K riyals/month (salary is measured by month here, not by year). That comes to around $32K/year. Again, I'm making A LOT of assumptions here, all revolving around the lifestyle that will make one comfortable.

There are so many variables involved in making such calculations. For example, many companies provide a housing allowance (common is 3months worth of salary). 30K rent (rent is measured by year, not by month) will get you a very nice house. Forget about the nicer western compounds as they cost over 100K/year. Other lesser compounds which may be affordable on that salary aren't really worth it.

Another issue is the schooling. Private international schools that teach in English are very expensive costing around 15K/year (which is around the tuition for an Islamic school in the US). Many people go the cheaper route and send their kids to Saudi public schools, but there are a lot of social challenges (language is the least of them) that your kids will have to overcome in that environment.

Women have many outlets, if they choose to pursue them. However, women have a strong clique mentality and if they don't find the right crowd of women to socialize with, they tend to close those outlets off for themselves. There are daytime Islamic classes, evening Quranic classes, all-women clubs, and so on. The western expat community (mainly non-Muslims) has created a subculture for themselves, if that interests you.

I'm rambling, so if anyone has any detailed questions, feel free to ask. And if anyone with their own Saudi experience wants to jump in with their advice, you're most welcome!

The Amusing - Thwarted Terrorist Attacks List

I found this list of thwarted terrorist attacks to be quite humorous. Most of the plots have been debunked and shown to be nothing more than fear-mongering by the Bush administration.

I find the glaring absence of the good Dr. Goldstein, who planned to fire-bomb a Florida masjid, to be a mere clerical oversight. I'm sure FOXNews will make that correction very soon. Riiiiggght.

The highlight of this most farcical list is the Miami Seven who were plotting to carry out a 'full ground war' on the US military. (Check out this wikipedia link to read the questions taken by the Attorney General and his answers - hilarity ensues)

And how could they leave out the Ghettoest Terror Plot in History?!


The Sad - Sami Al-Arian's Plight

Having failed to get a guilty verdict against Palestinian activitst Dr. Sami Al-Arian before two grand juries, the US government is hoping a third time's the charm. All the while Al-Arian is stuck, rotting away in jail for the past 4 years. He has now begun his third hunger strike in protest of this latest stunt by Bush and Co.

Please keep him, his family, and the countless other oppressed individuals in your dua'as


The Pathetic - The 'Free' Press

Here is a very interesting article exposing the truth behind the dirty relationship between the press and the object of their coverage, the powerful. It centers on the controversial statement by Obama's advisor, Samantha Power, referring to Hillary as a monster. As soon as she made the statement to Gerri Peev, a British reporter, she asked for it to remain 'off the record'. As that was never an agreed upon understanding from the beginning, Peev rightfully refused to oblige.

Peev was later interviewed by Tucker Carlson, a prominent MSNBC talk-show person, who took her to task for not respecting the 'off the record' remark. I love how she responded, "Are you (the press) really that acquiescent in the United States?"

Carlson then responds, unintentionally revealing the pathetic principles that guide the press when he states:

"but I wonder if you could just explain what you think the effect is on the relationship between the press and the powerful. People don’t talk to you when you go out of your way to hurt them as you did in this piece. Don’t you think that hurts the rest of us in our effort to get to the truth from the principals in these campaigns?"

Read the entire piece.

It means hearing Imam Sudais and instantly returning to Mecca and later hearing Men at Work and instantly returning to the 80’s.

It means remembering the days when Libya’s Qaddafi was the big bad bogeyman.

It means remembering the days when space shuttle launches actually meant something. The entire country would come to a standstill to watch the take-offs.

It means remembering where I was when the space shuttle Challenger exploded. I faked being sick so I wouldn’t miss the launch on TV and so I saw every tragic second of it live from my family room.

It means wrestling with myself whether to watch Joe Montana lead my favorite football team, the San Francisco 49ers, on the game winning drive in the waning seconds of the 1988 Super Bowl or to catch Isha prayer at the masjid.

It means hearing the name of the Syrian scholar Dr. Ramadan al-Buti and thinking back to the days when childish references to ‘Shaykh Yar Booti’ would always make me and my friends snicker.

It means remembering the days when most Americans believed ‘Moslems’ were stupid desert Arabs or followers of the evil Iranian Ayatollah. Wait, that hasn’t changed much.

It means recalling that I was once the undefeated champion in Atari’s Pitfall right after I recently got my butt kicked in Mortal Kombat 3 by some young punk. In my defense, Playstation controls have like 20 buttons - whatever happened to the simple Atari joystick that had just one red button?! Anyone?

It means loving the granddaddy of Muslim speakers, Imam Siraj Wihaj, who was the first star of the Muslim lecturers’ circuit in the US, back when 'going overseas to study' connotated a student exchange program with some family in Sweden.

It means being blessed to hear Imam Zaid Shakir back when he was a young firebrand speaker, in the mold of Malcom X, constantly talking about revolution. As he matured and stabilized his thoughts (initiated by his overseas studies), I went through a similar evolution where pragmatism began to play a larger role than idealism. Additionally, having kids tends to accelerate that process.

It means thinking that Papa Smurf must've been a good Muslim (due to his full beard) and Smurfette must've been a bad one (due to her revealing outfit), but eventually concluding that none of them were Muslims except for Gargamel who had an uncanny resemblance to one of the uncles at our Masjid.

It means innocently hoping that the Muslims in America will one day play the Moses (pbuh) to America’s Pharaoh, reared and nurtured within the secure confines of his palace only to one day challenge his oppressive ways and bring the taste of freedom to the rest of the browbeaten Ummah. On a related note, did you know that Naeem rhymes with Naïve?

It means remembering Geraldine Ferraro and Jesse Jackson being female and black presidential candidates way before Hillary and Obama came onto the scene.

It means hating myself for ever wanting to dress like Sonny Crockett.

It means loving myself for never wanting to dress like Michael Jackson.

It means convincing myself that one-hit wonder Save Ferris was a Muslim rock band because their famous song ‘Come on Ali’ was about a Muslim. I only recently discovered that the song was actually ‘Come on Eileen’. Hey gimme a break…it really does sound like he’s singing Ali, right?

It means realizing that most of you have no clue what I’m talking about. :-)

It means that despite the undeniable imprint left by American society unto my cognitive DNA, I have grown to despise it. The naiveté of my childhood has been viciously displaced by the repulsive realities governing this society, from the ongoing corporate-sponsored wars for global resources (oil in ME, natural gas in the Caspian, minerals in central Africa, cheap labor in Central America) to the gluttony that spurs these wars (encouraged and sponsored by those same corporations) to the widespread apathy displayed towards the effects of these wars, effects such as gross economic disparities, environmental carnage, and once-healthy societies laid to waste.

It means constantly struggling to reconcile my American side with my Muslim side. And then there’s that pesky Pakistani side that always wants to have its say. God help my kids who now have to navigate through these same murky waters with the added pressure from their Palestinian side. :-)

It means I’m still working on defining what American Muslim means to THIS American Muslim.

A few days ago, I was studying with Humza for his upcoming English test and we were reviewing the lesson on pronouns. We get to a section where he has to replace the bold word with a proper pronoun. The first one says the following:

The pilot flew the airplane
A. It
B. They
C. She.

For the life of me, I couldn’t figure out what the answer was. I was convinced that they had made a mistake in the textbook, having forgotten to include the correct answer (He). I mumbled something to the effect: ‘Hmmm..where is the right answer? There seems to be a mistake..hmmm..not sure…maybe they want you to use the pronoun ‘it’…hmmm…’

That’s right folks, I even considered using ‘it’ before Humza knocked some sense into me, ‘Abujee, the answer is right here…its She’

And he said it so nonchalantly, oblivious to the scourge known as gender bias. How sweet. Too bad it won’t last past middle school, I chuckled to myself.

Turns out that Humza’s way ahead of the game when it comes to the chauvinist learning curve:

I decided to do a quick experiment with Maryam and Humza with a short quiz to determine how much they’ve been effected by society’s overall predisposition on gender relations:

The leader went to visit Saudi Arabia
A. It
B. They
C. She

Humza chose They, Maryam picked She. When I asked Humza why he chose They, he shrugged and replied, ‘There was no HE.’

Atta boy Humza!

Me and my brother wish to meet the president.
A. Them
B. Her
C. Him

Humza selected Him and Maryam chose Her. When asked why, Maryam defiantly responded, 'Why not?' Just great, a feminist at the tender age of nine. Good luck to my future son-in-law!

The nurse gave me my medicine.
A. He
B. It
C. She

We saw the doctor in the surgery.
A. Them
B. Him
C. Her

They both answered these two questions in the typical way (nurse being female, doctor being male) – seems like a typical learned bias from the way society employs these roles. What’s odd is that their current pediatrician is a lady. Go figure.

The driver could not start the car.
A. She
B. It
C. They

Not surprisingly, they both had trouble with this one, especially for kids who've been in Saudi Arabia for the past 4 years. :-)

We have forgotten how to beg – if we ever even learned.

We have become so content with the blessings of Allah that we have forgotten that we are all beggars in front of our Creator.

When a beggar goes looking for a dollar, he wears the roughest garments, whimpers before the people, squirms in his clothing, and cries in his most earnest voice. If he is sincere in his quest, he doesn't simply stand stoically in the corner, parroting the same line emotionlessly.

And if that is the state of one who is begging for a dollar, what of the person who is begging to reach Allah (swt)?

Have we not become so used to making our supplications that we repeat them unconsciously, rarely considering what we are asking?

A tale of Hajjaj bin Yusuf, the ruthless caliph, highlights the poverty of our prayers.

Once while performing Umrah, he overheard a blind man making dua'a to Allah to return his eyesight. When he noticed the banality with which the old man was supplicating, he interrupted his tawaf and angrily confronted the man, 'By the time I complete my Umrah, if your sight is not restored I will sentence you to death!' With that, he assigned an officer to ensure the man didn't run and went on to complete his Umrah.

Having received such an ominous threat, the man was in total shock and began to weep profusely, begging 'Ya Allah, please Ya Allah, whereas before I was begging to You for my eyesight, I am now begging for my life! Please, please return my sight.' He cried and cried like never before and finally by the time Hajjaj bin Yusuf returned, Allah (swt) had answered his prayers and given him back his eyesight.

The caliph then remarked to the man, 'Had you beseeched your Lord for one thousand years in your casual manner, He would never have answered you. But once your heart and soul entered into your supplication, you were guaranteed a response.'

Let us all become true beggars.



(h/t to American Muslim)

I want to look at two kinds of married couples, the technically married and the passionately married.

The technical marriage consists of a couple who is fulfilling the legal obligations of the relationship but is notably devoid of any mutual feelings. Either for the sake of the children or for saving face in the community, they have chosen to remain together, even though they can barely stand each other.

The husband fulfills the bare minimum of his responsibilities by going to work, paying the bills, playing with the kids, and running the occasional errand. The love he once expressed towards his bride is long gone, replaced by a deep disdain for the woman he now lives with. For better or for worse, he has chosen to continue this façade.

The woman is equally disgusted with her partner, carrying out just enough of her wifely duties to convince society that she is content with her marital arrangements. She will cook the food, clean the house, and even force a smile on her face when seen in public with the man said to be her husband. But deep down she has no feelings of love towards the father of her children.

On the other end of the spectrum, the passionate marriage has two individuals madly in love with each other. When apart, they dream of the moment they will reunite. They have ceased to be a married couple and have become true lovers.

The husband constantly finds excuses for not going out with his friends, choosing instead the company of his soulmate. He looks for different ways to express his love, fearful of any letup in the raging wildfire of their passion. He continuously searches for the perfect gifts to express his love, always finding one better than the last one. Those rare moments when she expresses disappointment with him seem like an eternity, resulting in a flurry of attempts to alleviate her concerns.

The wife counts down the minutes until her husband returns from work and uncontrollably weeps when he is late. Hours with her sweetheart pass like the moment between two breaths. A smile from her lover melts her heart and transports her into a different dimension.

Those whom he loves have become beloved to her and conversely those whom she loves have become beloved to him. Their hearts pulsate in harmony, skipping a beat only when the other is mentioned.

Ponder over these two relationships and how contrasting they are.

I haven't brought up these two marriages in order to psycho-analyze the dynamics of a husband-wife relationship. Rather, my intention is to use these very concrete examples to examine our relationship with Allah (swt).

Most of us maintain a strict business relationship with Allah more in line with the former than the latter. We look to quickly fulfill our minimum obligations, nary a thought of performing the supererogatory (nawafil) acts. We dread talking to Him (in our prayers) and pay no attention when He speaks to us (through the Quran). We maintain the outer shell of this relationship so society does not speak ill of us, knowing full well that no real feelings exist between us and Allah.

Ya Allah!

How I wish to be in a passionate relationship with You! How I wish to be Your beloved and make You my beloved! What I would do to have my heart tremble in love at the mere mention of Your name! (The Believers are those who, when Allah is mentioned, feel a tremor in their hearts, 8:2)

How I wish to regularly mention Allah to my acquaintances, in hope of Him mentioning me in the company of His angels - like the two lovers who cannot stop talking about each other to their friends!

Why can't I build a relationship of undying love with the Ever-Living, throwing aside all my worldly one night stands with the ever-dying? (The believers are most intense in their love for Allah, 2:165)

Why don't I rush to awaken from my nightly sleep to be alone with Him? Why do my embarrassingly short prayers seem soo prolonged? Why does His book seem soo imposing? Why is my charity so calculated? Does not the lover thoughtlessly empty his pockets for the beloved?

Why don't I uncontrollably weep at the thought of being away from Him? Why do I love what I want to love, turning my back on what He loves?

Where has the passion gone in the one relationship that truly matters?

For the past week or so, I've been trying to get a solid understanding of the Kosovo independence fiasco. I remember first learning about the Islamic heritage of the region when Muslim refugees, first from Bosnia and then from Kosova, were sponsored by Muslim communities throughout the US. Many of us perceived the decade long struggle by the Muslims (epitomized by the Kosova Liberation Army, KLA) to be a legitimate jihad against the naked aggressions of their neighboring Christians.

So when the US led its 'humanitarian' 11-week bombing campaign in 1999, almost every Muslim joined the overwhelming chorus of support that hailed it as a momentous occasion: "the tidal wave of self-adulation by respected voices, lauding the first war in history fought “in the name of principles and values,” the first bold step towards a “new era” in which the “enlightened states” will protect the human rights of all under the guiding hand of an “idealistic New World bent on ending inhumanity,” now freed from the shackles of archaic concepts of world order." Noam Chomsky

The Muslims weren't able to look beyond our religious affiliations and step back to analyze the situation objectively.

Sadly, resulting events proved that America's interference was far from humanitarian. The exaggerated calls for a second holocaust occurring in the heart of Europe were shown to be pro-war propaganda, as the mass media had clearly fallen in love with the good vs. evil story being peddled by the Clinton administration (Big bad Milosevic = Evil, Former terrorists, now freedom fighters KLA = Good). Oddly, the real genocide that had taken place just a few years before (at the time) in Rwanda wasn't worthy of any humanitarian intervention.

The Rambouillet Agreement, which was the proposed peace agreement offered to Milosevic by NATO, revealed itself to be a clear example of America looking for a satellite state in the heart of Eastern Europe, in the exact same manner that Iraq and Afghanistan have become satellite states in the Middle East and Asia. Referring to the agreement, British Lord Gilbert, defense minister of state, said, "I think the terms put to Milošević at Rambouillet were absolutely intolerable; how could he possibly accept them; it was quite deliberate."

And if there were any doubt, the ensuing construction (by a Halliburton subsidiary, no less) of a nearly 1000-acre US military base, Camp Bondsteel, exposed the real intentions of the occupying force.

Fast forward 9 years and we have Kosovo finally declaring its independence after nearly a decade of UN pseudo-occupation. What should we make of this?? I like what this brother had to say about it. Plus Safia referenced this very interesting article that coupled the recent discovery of oil and natural gas with the declaration of independence.

And if you read nothing else, read this piece at Counterpunch that provides a real good summary, drawing a chilling parallel between America's role in the Kosovo War under Clinton and its more recent Iraq War under Bush.

I really hope more people are questioning this historic event. However, I'm afraid that many are adopting the overly naive stance taken by some that since they are a nation of Muslims, we must automatically support their independence.

Merely because they are our brothers in faith does not necessitate our blind support for their questionable agenda. The wider geopolitical ramifications of their cessation must be analyzed in addition to the insidious role of the meddling US.

I can understand the ambivalent stance taken by some as the region is truly a complex smorgasbord of socio-political factors, but blind support should be out of the question. As I understand the current situation, I can't support the Kosova independence for it really doesn't bode well for the local population. And in the end, it should be about stability, peace, and justice for the people, even if it requires that Kosovo remain a province of Serbia.

At the time of Prophet Isa's (peace be upon him) miraculous birth, the Jews were longing for a return to their glory days, when Prophets Daud and Suleiman (David and Solomon, peace be upon them) were mighty kings of mighty kingdoms. They were hoping for the fulfillment of biblical prophecies wherein the Messiah would deliver them from Roman bondage, restore King David's monarchy and re-establish Bani Israel's rightful place as rulers of the world.

They were longing for the Messiah to usher in the Messianic age, rebuild the Third Temple, and establish an eternal kingdom with Israel as the preeminent nation in the world, all backed by a military force capable of crushing the pagan Romans.

But Allah (swt), in His Infinite Wisdom, sent Prophet Isa as the Messiah armed with teachings of submission, forgiveness, mercy, turning the cheek, and loving the neighbor. He didn't come with the sword, he instead came with the word. Rather than a political solution, he came with a spiritual solution – a solution to reform the rotten core of the community.

Prophet Isa rebuked, in particular, the Pharisees, a prominent Jewish sect of the time, calling them back to the spirit of the law, condemning their inward spiritual emptiness and their overemphasis on the text while neglecting justice, faith, and upright character.

Consequently, when Prophet Isa didn't deliver the political power they desperately sought, the Jews rejected his pacifist message and to this day obstinately wait for their Messiah.

I see so much parallel between the Jews of then and the Muslims of now. We have Muslims looking for a political solution as a way back to the glory days of the Khilafah. The establishment of a Muslim state is seen as an instant panacea to all our problems. They call for a top-down approach whereby a powerful Islamic authority would properly implement the Shariah and somehow magically address all our socio-econo-political failings.

In addition to the politically obsessed, there are those who religiously adhere to the external formulations of the Prophetic Sunnah. With beards and niqabs, they have perfected the outward while maintaining a repulsive inward. The teachings of our Prophet have failed to take hold of their hearts.

And then there are the Masjid activists who are all about dedicating their time and effort to their local community, volunteering in various manners from shura councils to dawah groups to youth clubs. Sadly you find them lacking in their own spiritual development, living a secret life at odds with their public image.

We have become the 21st century version of the Pharisees. Instead of practicing an authentic spirituality of compassion, mercy and taqwa, we have become self-righteous, arrogant legalists using the letter of the law to project an understanding that all too often misses the bigger picture.

We seem to have lost the most essential lesson encapsulated in the reaction of Bani Israel to Prophet Isa (as): The unwillingness to accept a message calling us back to the core principles of mercy, forgiveness, submission, and beauty. We want tangible results and we want them now.

We have forgotten the countless Quranic calls to Ihsan (Excellence) and Taqwa (God-consciousness). We have set the aside the Prophetic principles of Rahmah (Mercy) and Jamal (Beauty). And instead we have mired ourselves in rigid formalism and jurisprudential jargon devoid of the true essence of our Beloved Prophet's message.

For sure, part of the absolute perfection of our Prophet (saw) was that he came with a complete message – and part of that message consists of a military-political aspect. But when it comes to creating a strategy to address the failings of this Ummah, it behooves us to learn from the mistakes of our cousins and begin our struggle with the Quranic call for self-reformation.

One final note: Lest my post be misinterpreted as a call to passivity, I strongly believe that we must all be action-oriented. But with the major caveat that our inner foundations be rock solid – as opposed to our current state where our hard hearts are the only thing rock solid about us.

I stumbled onto this video and thought it was down right hilarious:



I also got a kick out of this video:



Thank God we humans don't need to go through the same exercise in finding our mates. Otherwise, I'd still be single!

Not sure if I've shared my feelings on the American version of Democracy.

Oh yeah, I have. More than once.

Anyways, here is a nice article that provides more fuel to the fire.

As if the two-party system wasn't limiting enough in the options presented to the voters, the Democratic Party leaders are intent on dictating who that nominee should be using the superdelegates.

According to the article:

"[Walter] Mondale was quite open about the undemocratic aims of the superdelegate system. In a number of talks, he acknowledged that superdelegates were created with the explicit aim of preventing voter insurgencies."

The author goes on to quote Walter Mondale from a 1992 NY Times article:

"The election is the business of the people. But the nomination is more properly the business of the parties...The problem lies in the reforms that were supposed to open the nominating process...Party leaders have lost the power to screen candidates and select a nominee. The solution is to reduce the influence of the primaries and boost the influence of the party leaders...The superdelgate category established within the Democratic Party after 1984 allows some opportunity for this, but should be strengthened."

Do read the entire article. Worth your time to understand the lengths the power brokers will go to in order to retain control and prevent any serious change.

Not sure how this Zaid Shakir article totally flew under my radar, but I just read it yesterday and found it to be extremely pertinent to the current Obama lovefest.

Imam Zaid reflects on the truly revolutionary stances taken by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. near the end of his life. In particular, he quotes one lecture Dr. King gave one year before his assassination:

"I am convinced that if we are to get on the right side of the world revolution, we as a nation must undergo a radical revolution of values. We must rapidly begin to shift from a “thing-oriented” society to a “person-oriented” society. When machines and computers, profit motives and property rights are considered more important than people, the giant triplets of racism, materialism, and militarism are incapable of being conquered..."

And then he really hits the nail on the head when he contrasts that with Obama's approach:

"Herein lays Dr. King’s legacy, an uncompromising struggle against the “giant triplets of racism, materialism and militarism.”...Obama is a viable African American candidate because he has steadfastly refused to deal with the issues Dr. King was dealing with at the end of his life, even though they are just as relevant today as they were forty years ago."

When Obama talks of change is he referring to racism or materialism or militarism? Of course not, for if he were to target those substantive issues, his fate would most definitely be in more line with that of Dr. King's:

"In the aftermath of that speech Dr. King was condemned by many African American leaders such as Whitney Young and Roy Wilkins. President Lyndon B. Johnson, who saw himself as a great friend of the “Negro” people was irate. The growing schism between Dr. King and the power structure had been cemented."

In reality, the problem is not with Obama, but with the American 'democratic' system that is so impervious to change.

The ability to have a reasonable discussion on the positive social ramifications of Islamic polygyny.

Take note all you young, oh-so-naive husbands out there. Don’t attempt this at home. Only trained stooges who have gone through the proper mental beatdown brought on by years of marriage are obtuse enough to ever try this exercise in sheer futility:

Me: You’re really not helping me lose weight with all those cakes you’re constantly baking

W: No one's forcing you to eat them

Me: I know what you’re doing. You just want to plump me up so I get ugly. That way I won’t ever entertain the thought of a second wife. I’m onto you sister. The jig is up!

W: [expletive which I didn’t hear, but was surely muttered], A second wife?! No other woman would be such a glutton for punishment

Me: (smoothly ignoring her remark) Listen, what so wrong with helping a fatherless child?

W: Hah! Helping a fatherless child? You mean helping father a child, you slick pervert.

Me: Not true my sweet honeysuckle princess (not my actual words, but I was thinking them), polygyny, when done with the correct intention is all about helping others.

W: (with a disgust that ought to be reserved for murderers and rapists) Like helping you sick men to some more booty action.

Ouch.

Making use of my well-honed skills for detecting mood changes, perfected by years of nimbly navigating past emotional landmines on the battlefield of marriage, I sensed a shift in her temperament and deftly changed the topic

Me: So tell me, does paper *really* beat out rock? I never really understood that. Cause you know, I can take a sharp rock and do some real damage to a piece of paper...

This conversation was followed by 2 days of the silent treatment.

Oh, and this is concrete proof that she never reads my blog (God knows how she would have reacted to my two posts on Islamic Polygyny).

That being said, if I were to declare to the entire world that her Kheer (Pakistani rice pudding) tastes like wallpaper paste, there would be no negative repercussions.

Sweet!

Another meme tag is going around (I’ll get to your tag Baraka) and it got me thinking: where do these meme tags begin?

I’ve never actually followed back the links to the originator of the meme tag. I’m guessing they're probably scientifically created in some sort of mysterious CIA-sponsored meme super-lab, designed to distract the blogosphere whenever their conspiracy chatter gets too close to the truth or could it be some great Wizard of Blog, hiding behind a curtain, crafting new and ingenious ways to waste people’s time?

Anyways, I’ve decided to create my very own meme tag.

That’s right folks, you are witnessing the creation of an actual meme tag! Its like being present at the birth of a newborn baby. What, is that too overdramatic? Fine, let me tone my comparison down a bit – your presence at the commencement of this meme tag is akin to standing at the beginning of a rainbow. Still too much? Ok, ok, it’s probably closer to the feeling of absolute relief as you witness a car accident unfold in your rear view mirror, thanking your Lord that you weren’t directly involved in that horrible disaster.

Suit yourself. I still prefer the rainbow comparison.

I decided to call it the Reese's Puffs To-Do List meme tag. Inspired by what I considered a mostly useless list of ‘18 things to do before turning 18’ found on the back of a Reese's Puffs cereal box (reproduced below for your very own reading pleasure), I created my own counter list of 18 morally responsible things to do. Asking people to create 18 items is too much, so I’ll scale it down to a more feasible 6.

In case you’re new to the meme tag game, here are the basic rules:

1. Post these rules before presenting your list.
2. List 6 actions or achievements you think every person should accomplish before turning 18.
3. There are no conditions on what can be included on the list.*
4. At the end of your blog, choose 6 people to get tagged and list their names.
5. People who are tagged write their own blog entry with their 6 suggestions.
6. Don’t forget to leave them a comment telling them they’re tagged.
7. Optional: You can include the image of the ridiculous Reese's Puffs list in your post as a reference.

* The list can be totally serious or outright hilarious like Dave’s comment on my original post: “19. If Arab, Desi, black, or another distrusted population in the US, don a Kufi and walk into heritage foundation's headquarters, look around, and loudly say "Where da white women at?" like in Blazing Saddles. If I wasn't white, I would totally do that.”

Seeing that I'm the originator of this meme tag (and that I’m simply cutting and pasting from my old entry), I will present 18 things:

1. Memorize the Quran.
2. Go camping and sleep under the stars.
3. Organize a festival at your local masjid.
4. Compete with your friends to recite the entire Quran during the month of Ramadan. First one gets a box of Reese’s Puffs.
5. Do Itikaaf in your local masjid.
6. With a group of your friends, visit a sick person.
7. Spend an extended period of time with your grandparents.
8. Perform Umrah/Hajj and break bread with as many strangers as possible.
9. Massage your mothers feet.
10. Say La-illah-il-Allah 1000 times in one sitting.
11. Pray Salat Tasbih
12. Volunteer as a mentor for a local youth club.
13. Pray Fajr in the desert.
14. Help a total stranger unload their grocery cart into their car.
15. Sacrifice a sheep with your own hands.
16. Plant a tree.
17. Get married.
18. Maintain your Islamic identity – yes!!

And since this is the first in the chain of this meme tag, I’ll pollinate its seeds by tagging more than 6 lucky bloggers. Consider yourselves part of blogging history. :-)

Baraka, Saifuddin, Suroor, Unique Muslimah , MrEspy , Amal, Dave, Aaminah, Suhaa, and IzzyMo

BTW, I was about to tag you Amy, but then I remembered you had already provided an amazing list in the comments of my original post:

- Study something (anything!) with someone who is very old. (80+) Will teach appreciation for life's lessons and respect for the elderly and their wisdom.
- Prepare a body for burial. Will instill awareness of mortality.
- Make an item of clothing for yourself to wear (i.e., pants, shoes, shirt, etc.) Will foster a respect for the clothes we wear (that we tend to just buy at the store..)
- Help construct a house or masjid (without being paid.)
- Watch the sun rise and set over the ocean--the vastness of the sky and sea are awe-inspiring.
- Spend the longest day of the year (June 21) fasting and the longest night of the year (December 21) in prayer.
- Babysit--to know that children are not a light responsibility.

Just returned from a weekend trip to Mecca and came back with some interesting discoveries as well as some nice pics.

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I didn't notice it until this last trip, but people are constantly taking pictures with their phone cameras. I remember back when I performed my first Hajj in 2001, cameras were strictly prohibited in the Haram. Some people would sneak in their small disposable cameras and steal some photos when no one was around (I remember hearing stories about some people getting their cameras taken away).

But with the ubiquitous cellphone camera, the Haram authorities have basically given up. So now you'll see people unabashedly taking pictures from every corner of the Haram. In that spirit, here's my Nokia 6300-sponsored picture of the Ka'bah:

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Its low season here, meaning that Umrah visas aren't currently being issued to overseas pilgrims. So there's a lot less of a crowd, which is quite nice. The sparse crowd allowed the kids to get all the way up to the Ka'bah. However, there are Saudi mutawaa (religious police) stationed at each wall constantly keeping the flow of the people moving. Fortunately, as he was shooing away some other folks, I was able to quickly snap this picture of the kids:


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The construction to expand the Masa'a (the place where Sae'e is performed between Safa and Marwa) is simply amazing. I knew they were expanding it horizontally to widen it, but I failed to realize that they're even adding another level!

They recently opened up the new ground floor and the level on top, while closing the entire three floors of the old Masa'a. They're destroying the old structure so they can reconstruct it with an additional fourth level.



















And can someone NOT from America please explain to me how the rest of the world numbers the floors in a building?? In America, the ground floor is referred to as the first floor, the floor on top is the second floor, and so on. Here in Saudi, the ground floor is called the ground floor, the next floor up is the first floor and so on. This has caused me and my family SO much confusion.

So, I would like to know if America is in fact the Great Retard and has it backwards (like how they're the only nation that uses pounds, gallons, and miles) or is it just the Saudis who have it all screwed up?

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More than a year ago, I was blessed to perform Umrah with Sh Zulfiqar Ahmed. Before we began, he pointed out the exact location where the Prophet (saw) was sleeping when Angel Jibreel (as) took him for the famous Night Journey (Isra and Miraj).



According to Sh. Zulfiqar, the Prophet (saw) was sleeping in between the two pillars (of course those pillars weren't there at the time). He also showed us a nearby pillar which was built on the spot where Jibreel tied al-Buraq (the winged horse). The Ottomans had painted that pillar with a special red paint, but when the Saudis came, they painted over it with a gray marble color. We actually noticed how some of the red paint was still visible at the foot of the pillar. Sadly, when I went looking for that pillar this time around, I couldn't tell which one it was – they seem to have covered up the remnants of red paint. Too bad.

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I discovered that I'm really disgusted by the Abraj al-Bait towers. At first, I didn't mind the looming complex that dwarfed all its neighboring hotels. I didn't even mind the fact that its super-mall was being built right outside the Haram. But sitting in front of the Ka'bah, I noticed just how great a distraction these building have become to the once serene skyline. How unbelievably awkward!



And yes, I am bothered that a western style mall is coming to the Haram sanctuary. I understand that Mecca has always been a business center, especially during the peak seasons of Ramadan and Hajj. I realize that many people come to Mecca for the purpose of trade. Countless pilgrims buy scarves, kufis, and other trinkets to remind them and their loved ones of their blessed visit. But who in the world needs to shop at Gap, Pumpkin Patch, and Louis Vetton when coming to the house of Allah?

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I discovered that while the thin crowd is nice and all, the pleasure of seeing the clusters of Turks, Persians, Indonesians, Nigerians, and Indians is sorely missed. But on the bright side, the lack of distraction afforded me the chance to focus on the Ka'bah and I discovered that it can talk – and what it said to me was quite harsh (fodder for a future post).

My years of living on a western compound here in Riyadh has allowed me to observe this creature called the Western Expat (WE) in its natural habitat. Let me first present a disclaimer that my findings are not true of every WE, but the trends cited below are too common to be explained away as aberrations.

The WE migrates to the Gulf mainly from America, Europe, and Australia, with only a few documented cases coming from South America. The chief factor for migrating is economical, with many citing the tax-free income as a major attraction.

Finding itself in a strange setting, the WE goes to extreme lengths to replicate a back-home feeling. They've created heavily fortified communities wherein they not only dress as they please, but they also prohibit niqabis and some even prevent hijabis from entering. Although alcohol is prohibited in the kingdom, its common knowledge that booze flows very freely in these enclaves.

Saudi families are not allowed to live on these western compounds. The American and British International schools don't allow Saudis, but they do allow expats from other Arab countries.

The feeling is that WEs wish to remove all traces of Saudi Arabia when they enter their compounds and schools. They unashamedly display a degree of intolerance they would rarely ever externalize in their countries of origin.

Surrounded by a sea of religiosity, the WE displays an inordinate amount of religious pride. WE's who would never celebrate holidays back home are lining up to celebrate Easter and Christmas. WE's who would rarely visit a church are suddenly yearning for weekly mass.

The WE displays characteristics very comparable to those seen in the American Muslim (the non-indigenous variety), a similarly amazing creature. The instinct of survival kicks in to a higher gear when in a foreign environment. I refer not to life preservation, but to identity preservation.

They seem to be trying extra hard to exert their self-identity, as if they fear being swallowed by the surrounding inferior society. It's interesting to contrast that with the American Muslim community which is leery of assimilating into a western culture that alluringly imposes its beliefs and practices on its citizens.

But Saudi society is neither alluring nor imposing, so what are the WEs so paranoid of? Or is their cultural hubris so acute that they can't possibly denigrate themselves by interacting with the locals?

At first glance, the WE will always say the right thing, but when push comes to shove, the orientalist attitude that is mysteriously imprinted onto their psyche comes oozing out. I've sat and traveled with them (in our daily carpool) for the past several years and its very revealing to see the extent of their self-importance and arrogance.

From their belief that KSA could not prosper without them to their mocking the backwards Bedouin mentality to their self-righteous pity kindly offered to the Saudi women, their disdain for their hosts is quite apparent.

I'll conclude with an incident that took place this past weekend where a brother and I attended a hiking group consisting mainly of westerners. Every week this group of over 100 expats hike and run through the desert mountains outside Riyadh. Looking to establish something similar for our circle of families, we decided to join them to discover some new locations.

When we arrived we noticed that we were the only Muslims present. No big deal. So we're standing around waiting for the hike to begin when a small group comes up to welcome us and one of the ladies, hand extended, introduces herself. My friend placed his hand on his chest and politely declined. No big deal.

But turns out that she was offended and complained to someone, who voiced their displeasure to our host (attendance is by host invitation only). So our host, not wishing to ruffle any feathers, apologetically suggested that all three of us leave (we convinced him to stay and chose to leave on our own).

On the way back, it struck me that this lady had probably never set foot out of her compound to interact with the locals. She's living in one of the most overtly Muslim societies and yet she still remains ignorant of a most basic Muslim practice.

At least the Orientalists of old would immerse themselves into the local cultures before unloading their contempt and scorn for the barbaric ways of their hosts. This latest iteration of the Orientalist, presenting itself in the form of the WE, can't be bothered with all that nonsense of learning the local customs and simply skips to the contempt. How very efficient of them!

The WE is indeed a most amazing species.

I just saw this amazing video, documenting some amazing sea creatures from the depths of the ocean and it immediately reminded me of the Glory and Perfection of Allah (swt).



Just as observing the sky above us has for centuries turned many towards their Creator, visiting the depths below us can have an equally spiritual effect.

How absolutely perfect is Allah (swt) the Creator, that He would posit such wonders of nature in faraway places no one may ever visit! He could have easily left these distant corners of the universe empty and it would have mattered little to us. But the existence of such amazing handiworks of the Divine further intensifies one's belief in the unquestionable flawlessness of our Creator.

The universe, this most masterful of artistic works, is constantly revealing its beauty to its bedazzled onlookers, who themselves are part of this canvas, resulting in a mind-boggling scenery that can only have been produced by the Master Artist.

If the creation of the universe was for the purpose of knowing Allah (swt) ("I was a hidden treasure and I wished to be known, so I created Creation."), then it is signs such as these that fortify that realization.

Ya Allah!

One may wonder what is the purpose of such intricately detailed creations found in the expanses of outer space or at the bottom of the oceans. I believe that regardless of their scientific purpose, they have fulfilled their *real* purpose by acting as agents of reminder - reminding this humble servant of the need to constantly glorify and worship Allah (swt).

Indeed, every creation of Allah (swt) plays an important role and function in this universe. Well, everything except for maybe this guy. Not really sure what his purpose for existence is...

I finally got around to updating my BlogRoll. Do check out those blogs...most of them are regularly updated by their owners.

And shoot me any more suggestions. I'm always on the lookout for new, interesting blogs! But beware, I'm very choosy. Actually, I take that back...I must not be *that* choosy - I got Espyisms on my blogroll afterall.

I also updated my Top Posts list and added a new Special Posts section consisting of series of posts that I wrote....

Happy Browsing!

Ever since the Internet caught on over a decade ago, it has been used for the dissemination of Islamic information. Many well-intentioned Muslims have been rushing to make use of the latest technology to educate the masses, from websites to blogs to online classes. However, I fear that a vital connection is being lost what with all these alternative modes of acquiring information.

And so its with that spirit that I begin my rant:

First of all, the blazing speed with which communication travels across the globe has made it that much easier to access scholars from all over. This has led to some very odd fatwas (I'm not sure any American Muslim scholar would legitimate for Muslims the ceremonial wedding kiss, as is commonly seen in Christian weddings) made by qualified scholars who are not intimately aware of the social dynamics of Muslims half-way across the world.

People need to stop importing fatwas from societies and cultures foreign to the ones in which they live. Too often, they simply don’t match. Sadly, many scholars remain oblivious to the ways in which their answers are being transported to different lands across the world. I don’t necessarily blame the scholars, but their all-too-eager students, who are too busy promoting their teachers to a worldwide audience to realize the potential damage they may be causing.

Secondly, I’m totally against these fatwa websites, online courses, and what not as many have taken them as primary sources of knowledge. Our deen has always been transmitted from teacher to student in a physical setting conducive to real learning. That connection consists of more than the mere transmission of digital information and data.

It's about learning the adab of conducting oneself from being in the physical presence of the teacher.

It's about seeing how to live and breathe the Sunnah of our ultimate teacher, the Prophet (saw).

It's about sitting with others who are also enthusiastic about learning and implementing this knowledge.

It’s the look of delight in the face of the teacher when you exceed expectations and the look of disappointment when you fall short of your potential.

It’s the expression of anger reserved for the select few who are worthy of the teacher's inner circle.

It's about the social and spiritual bond with your fellow students as you collectively traverse the path of knowledge.

It's about the angels sitting over the group, covering them with their wings, and praying for them throughout the session.

As much as we would like, that sacred interaction can not be translated to any other medium – including books, audio tapes/CDs, and now the Internet. These complementary tools are just that – tools to supplement the setting of the study circle. There are so many variables and dynamics present during a dars (study session) that are completely omitted in these attempts to record them.

Now I’m not trying to create an exclusivist class consisting only of those who are fortunate to sit in the company of scholars. For sure, everyone is capable of benefiting from books and CDs. But let us not content ourselves with just that. Let us all strive to sit in live gatherings of dhikr of Allah (swt) with the heirs of the Prophets, where real knowledge is being imparted in ways we can only begin to imagine.

Let me start on a narcissistic note. Empowered Muslim Youth has put up an interview with this humble blogger. If you’re a sucker for punishment, head on over there.

Does this news about American permanent bases in Iraq surprise anyone?


The good sister at What She Said posted this news item on Turkey dropping its ban on Hijab.


And finally, check out this amazing series of photos featuring a great white shark attacking a seal off the coast of South Africa.

Humza’s been a bit under the weather lately with a runny nose and the sort. He’s not yet learned how to efficiently blow his nose, so he’ll take a tissue and wipe his nose once and then throw it to the side. After a few minutes, you’ll see him next to a pile of barely used tissues all crumpled up. He can literally go through an entire tissue box in less than a day.

I finally got fed up with him and yelled, ‘Humza! Stop wasting these tissues. You think they grow on trees?!’

Smart-aleck Maryam looks up and says, ‘But Abujee, tissues *do* come from trees.’

Flustered, I quickly reply, ‘Fine, but that’s not my point...’

Humza interrupts with a confused look, ‘Tissues grow on trees?’

Maryam continues in her Ms. Know-it-all voice, 'Tissues are made of paper and paper comes from trees. Right, Abujee?'

'Cool', says Humza as he wipes his nose with another tissue from the box.

Throwing my hands up in the air, I walk away mumbling to myself, ‘You kids may have won this round...'

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Just for fun (and moreso, to irk my wife), I wanted to see how my kids would react to the topic of polygyny. I first asked Maryam how she would act if her husband wanted to marry another wife.

She replied, 'He better make sure to take care of me...or else.'

Interesting response...I think there is some sort of osmosis phenomenon going on between her and her mother.

Then I turned to Humza and asked if he would ever get married twice. Without even thinking, he blurted, 'No way!' Puzzled, I asked how come.

(His exact words) 'They are too hard.'

'Strong within you, the force is, young Skywalker,' I thought proudly.

No doubt about it here, folks...there is definitely osmosis between me and him.

UPDATE 1/04/09: In addition to the blatantly one-sided letter that Obama wrote to Khalilzad (below), Obama has revealed his true colors through his silence on the current Israeli onslaught. He may be correct when he states that there is only one President at a time, yet that slight technicality didn't prevent him from making his statement of condemnation on the Mumbai attacks. Nor has it prevented him from holding regular press conferences to address the nation's economy. So why now has he decided to take the stance that America can have only one President at a time??

UPDATE 1/29/08: It seems that the infamous letter is authentic. Here is a picture of the letter and the related news story. (Thanks to Amy for providing the links). Now if someone could please explain to me the eerie silence by the mass media on this issue. Media coverage of the leading candidates has kicked into high gear, so whenever Obama scratches his ass, its headline news. How come this letter didn't receive any airtime by the MSM?

I just ran across this letter 'written' by Obama to the US Ambassador to the UN:

Dear Ambassador Khalilzad,

I understand that today the UN Security Council met regarding the situation in Gaza, and that a resolution or statement could be forthcoming from the Council in short order.

I urge you to ensure that the Security Council issue no statement and pass no resolution on this matter that does not fully condenm the rocket assault Hamas has been conducting on civilians in southern Israel...

All of us are concerned about the impact of closed border crossings on Palestinian families. However, we have to understand why Israel is forced to do this... Israel has the right to respond while seeking to minimize any impact on civilians.

The Security Council should clearly and unequivocally condemn the rocket attacks... If it cannot bring itself to make these common sense points, I urge you to ensure that it does not speak at all.

Sincerely,

Barack Obama
United States Senator

Now I'm no fan of Obama, and his unwavering support for Israel is no different than any other US politician's, but the authenticity of this letter is in serious doubt.

First of all, the only place I could find this letter was on some message board, a few blogs, and a second-rate news outlet.

Secondly, is it normal practice for Senators to include a bunch of '...' in their official correspondences?

Finally, one of the sources often cited is this Haaretz link. Its a blog of their Chief US Correspondent, Shmuel Rosner. He doesn't source the letter, so I remain in doubt.

Anyone have a concrete, reliable source for this letter?

If not, I'm guessing that it was 'leaked' by the Obama camp to shore up support from the pro-Israel voting bloc, where he's taking a beating.

Saudi Arabia provides a very interesting case of a society aggressively welcoming the indoors-oriented 21st century but equally mindful of its passion for nature and the outdoors.

I've spent the past 5 years in Riyadh and have been witness to an amazing economic boom taking place, with a construction pace only bested by the likes of Dubai and Beijing. But even though malls and business offices are filling the Riyadh skyline and the Saudis are getting plugged in (Internet, satellite dishes, 3G cell phones, etc.), they somehow are still retaining their connection to the outdoors.

The most popular pastime remains weekend outings to the desert or to the local park. There are a number of public parks sprinkled throughout the city and during the weekend, you'll be hard-pressed to find a patch of grass to sit on. To meet the high demand, there are even a handful of private parks, available to those willing to pay a small entry fee.

You see, everyone flocks to the park at weeks end. Most people either live in apartment flats or homes that lack a front/backyard. So the women and children are cooped up indoors without a place to roam outside their homes. And if they ever dared to venture outside, the neighborhoods are not designed to allow for casual strolls, with the absence of sidewalks and presence of drivers oblivious to the concept of pedestrian right-of-way. Thus, the only remedy is to spend a few hours in the park.

To that end, you'll see families gathering at parks, men sitting on one blanket grilling some kebabs, women sitting on another blanket sipping tea, and kids running around wreaking havoc. These grass-filled parks are especially nice as greenery is an scarce commodity in the desert oasis of Riyadh.

People here are so starved for outdoor activities, that I've seen many families park their cars at the outer limits of the huge mall parking lots (where traffic is sparse). They lay out a blanket on the concrete and proceed to have a small picnic with their kids enjoying the open space. I've actually done that myself with some friends – while our wives were inside shopping, we took the kids outside to play in the parking lot (away from traffic, of course) and relaxed on a small patch of grass.

However, if the crowded scene of the parks in the city is not your cup of tea, the expansive desert that surrounds Riyadh provides a more serene setting.

What really amazes me is the widespread popularity of the desert. At first, I didn't understand the appeal of spending time in the desert – isn't that where the merciless sun beats down on its visitors and scavenging vultures circle overhead?

So I was initially surprised when I heard that droves of families go out to the desert as a social outlet. It was only after I tried it myself that I found something eerily calming with the open desert. The lack of visual distractions really forces a more meditative frame of mind. The adults seem to engage in more introspective discussions while the kids are forced to entertain themselves in innovative ways.

And when nightfall arrives, the obligatory campfire brings its natural flickering light to the dark abyss of the surrounding desert. Sitting around the fire, drinking Arabic coffee and munching on dates, under the starry sky, surrounded by friends and family brings out the romantic in even the most hardest of hearts.

I find this magnetic relationship with the outdoors programmed into the social fabric of this society – and I'm not simply restricting it to the Saudis. Many of the participants are in fact expats from all over the Middle East and the Indian subcontinent. It's so refreshing to see this zeal for the outdoors very much alive, starkly contrasting the murky electronic age in which most of us are mired.

And what's most wonderful is the simplicity surrounding these social settings. Whereas entertainment in the West often revolves around an event, such as a concert or a ballgame or a carnival, laying down a blanket in a park or the desert is a sublime act of the greatest simplicity requiring nothing more than a group of family and friends, accentuated with some nice mint tea.

Here's an amazingly accurate guide on the Do's and Don'ts of raising kids.

I've been thinking some more on the issue of Islamic polygyny, specifically about the humanity (or lack thereof) surrounding the practice. A commenter from my last post referred to the pain experienced by the first wife:

"but tell me, if tomorrow you decided to take another wife, how would your wife FEEL? proud? happy? excited? or would she feel embarassed and EXTREMELY hurt that perhaps she is lacking something? who would be proud telling their mom 'guess what mom. my hubby is taking on another wife! yay'"

On top of that, I found this very interesting post by Achelois, where some very real, agonizing questions have been introduced into this discussion – questions revealing the very human aspect of this issue.

I appreciate these often-overlooked perspectives for they provide an insight that is sorely lacking in this discussion.

But the reality is that sometimes there is serious pain involved in fulfilling social responsibilities. And that is how I view Islamic polygyny – as a social responsibility to be practiced in the context of extenuating circumstances. I view polygyny as a most effective means of caring for orphans and single mothers. I see it as a means of providing for women when there is a dearth of men capable of providing for these women.

I don't see it through the twisted lenses of men who are looking for kinky, sexual pleasures. I don't accept that lame excuse that it helps curb adultery. I don't buy the statistical argument that there are more women than men. I don't paint my opinion of Islamic polygyny with the abuses of the countless men indulging in their sexual fantasies.

I view the institution of Islamic polygyny as a necessary aberration to address societal 'situations'. I see it eerily similar to Islamic Jihad.

The hallowed institution of Jihad is universally accepted by all Muslims, regardless of its many abuses across the globe. Even with the prominence of Al-Qaeda and their jihadist brethren, no Muslim will ever opine that Jihad has become an outdated institution.

No sane Muslim will talk of the personal difficulties created by Jihad as justification for its abrogation.

Surely there is pain involved in taking the soul of another human, the horror of ending a life which had the potential of becoming a beloved servant of God, the anguish of creating another widow and another orphan, the mental and emotional toll it takes on the participants, the torment of the wife who kisses her husband one last time before he goes out to fight, and so on.

These are very real issues created when fulfilling the responsibilities of Islamic Jihad.

But these truths don't detract from the harsh reality of having to pick up a weapon and fight for the sake of Allah (when the requisite conditions have been met).

Nor should the pains involved in polygyny sidetrack individuals from fulfilling their social responsibilities (when the requisite conditions have been met).

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This final part is work-in-progress:

[And just like the requisite conditions for Jihad have been spelt out in our tradition, I believe that a similar effort ought to be undertaken for Islamic polygyny. There are many rules with regards to declaring and carrying out Jihad that have been extracted from the principles of the Quran and Sunnah. Why shouldn't there be similar rulings outlining the do's and don'ts of polygyny.

Sadly I fear that is something that will never happen. For it is the condition-less practice of polygyny that allows men to indulge and abuse this most sanctified of Islamic institutions.]

This recent post by Sister RadiantLight got me thinking about Islamic Polygamy and how its being treated by our current generation as if it’s the second coming of the plague.

Back when my wife used to teach a class of young girls at the local masjid, I would advise her to address the topic of polygyny in a positive, receptive manner, with the intent of freeing the girls from all the negativity often associated with it. Unfortunately, the complexities behind this phenomenon that has afflicted the mindset of modern-day Muslims cannot be fully confronted in a weekend classroom.

There are too many forces that are painting this horrifying picture of Islamic polygyny as some abhorrent behavior, only practiced by the most barbaric of men and most naïve of women.

Now I clearly don't see polygyny as the normative mode of marriage, but I also believe that it shouldn't be viewed as some horrible anomaly. It should be embraced as a healthy alternative to nonstandard circumstances.

Too many young women are being raised with the belief that being in a polygynous relationship is socially unacceptable. They are being taught that only the most desperate and most abused are ever partner to such a relationship. They are being told that these are the misguided ways of misogynistic men.

We need to break this ugly trend and begin to teach our daughters and sisters that a family with one husband and two wives can be as healthy and functional as any monogamous relationship. We need to teach the women that it is a completely acceptable situation.

And more importantly, the teaching needs to be done to the men as well. They need to be taught that marrying a second wife is not to be taken lightly, based solely on one's sexual desires or born out of apathy towards the first wife. They need to be taught the Prophetic way of marrying more than one wife and more importantly, the staunch warnings against treating them unjustly.

They need to be taught that in some circumstances, it would be irresponsible for them NOT to marry a second wife. Unfortunately, there are men who would be prime candidates for having more than one wife (proper religious understanding, upright character, financially sound, etc.), but have resigned themselves to one wife, for one reason or another.

And what's even more unfortunate is that men who are absolutely *unqualified* to ever get married to even one woman are the ones marrying two or three at a time.

My point is I find it very troubling that there are so many women out there, struggling to find a husband, that simply would never entertain the thought of entering a polygynous marriage, regardless of the upstanding character of the man and the accepting nature of the first wife.

And if ever a woman is willing to consider such a situation, the parents would never allow for it, citing social pressures and the like.

That's just too bad.

That mindset needs to change.

Yes, me. And others like me.

The vast majority of voters in America are simply not going to put in the required effort to educate themselves where each candidate stands on the myriad issues.

Just not gonna do it.

And that is why leaving the vote to numskulls like myself is the greatest of travesties.

The masses are so easily swayed. Votes can be manipulated, bought, or simply cast in outright ignorance.

And even those who put a semblance of effort in understanding the differences between the candidates, they are influenced by the all-powerful media which frames the discussion of the issues and the candidates (see how they're hamstringing the Kucinich campaign by excluding him from the debates).

Look at the two frontrunners in the Democratic party, Obama and Clinton. Most will agree that a vote for Clinton is a vote for the status quo. But few will admit the same of Obama.

A cursory look at his platform shows that he is a man of the establishment, for the establishment, with nary a chance of rocking the boat (h/t to gess).

Obama's team of advisors are a bunch of recycled politicians from Clinton's presidency. And one doesn't raise as much campaign funds as Obama ($80M as of last September) without serving the interests of some powerful lobbying groups in Washington. And a closer look at his foreign policy shows many similarities to that of Mitt Romney's.

I'm afraid that many Muslims will get lulled into voting for him, in the same manner that they voted for Bush 8 years ago. The man is charismatic, saying all the right things, and is promising change, yet has accomplished very little on the political scene (domestically and especially internationally).

And then there are those who are advocating voting for these Obama/Clinton based on their racial and gender minority status. (Many voted with that same spirit in the past two elections - voting for the candidate from the mentally handicapped minority group - and look where that got us?...OK, that was cheesy - couldn't help myself)

But to even suggest that a leader be elected based on gender or race is extremely ignorant. But I'm sure most votes will be cast with that being the major factor.

How pathetic.

And don't even get me started on the change-resistant nature of the two-party system. What a joke!

Let me be clear that I'm not against representational governance. I'm just fed up with all this hoopla about western-style democracy being the greatest thing since sliced bread. Lets acknowledge the absurdity of the claim that democracy is the height of man's political evolution.

Check out the list at Dunner's blog.

A few months ago, I had posted about the astonishing rate of military suicides (around 120 per week since 2005), primarily linked to the stresses of the Iraq and Afghanistan wars. I had written:

"War is not only ravaging the innocent families over in Iraq and Afghanistan, but also those families who have foolishly sent their loved ones to fight these unjust invasions."

That's why it was little surprise when I read this NY Times piece detailing the sad plight of some soldiers who end up committing homicide:

"The New York Times found 121 cases in which veterans of Iraq and Afghanistan committed a killing in this country, or were charged with one, after their return from war. In many of those cases, combat trauma and the stress of deployment — along with alcohol abuse, family discord and other attendant problems — appear to have set the stage for a tragedy that was part destruction, part self-destruction.

Three-quarters of these veterans were still in the military at the time of the killing. More than half the killings involved guns, and the rest were stabbings, beatings, strangulations and bathtub drownings. Twenty-five offenders faced murder, manslaughter or homicide charges for fatal car crashes resulting from drunken, reckless or suicidal driving.

About a third of the victims were spouses, girlfriends, children or other relatives, among them 2-year-old Krisiauna Calaira Lewis, whose 20-year-old father slammed her against a wall when he was recuperating in Texas from a bombing near Falluja that blew off his foot and shook up his brain."

And that's simply the tip of the iceberg, with many more veterans suffering in other ways:

"Clearly, committing homicide is an extreme manifestation of dysfunction for returning veterans, many of whom struggle in quieter ways, with crumbling marriages, mounting debt, deepening alcohol dependence or more-minor tangles with the law."
[...]
"Today the focus is on PTSD, but military health care officials are seeing a spectrum of psychological issues, with an estimated half of the returning National Guard members, 38 percent of soldiers and 31 percent of marines reporting mental health problems, according to a Pentagon task force."

As I did in my previous post, I implore you to read the Chris Hedges article at the Nation where he interviews 50 soldiers. The horrifying stories they narrate display the sheer inhumanity and gross disregard for life and law with which these wars are being carried out. Its no surprise why so many vets come home in such a miserable psychological state.

"'He came back different' is the shared refrain of the defendants’ family members, who mention irritability, detachment, volatility, sleeplessness, excessive drinking or drug use, and keeping a gun at hand.

“You are unleashing certain things in a human being we don’t allow in civic society, and getting it all back in the box can be difficult for some people,” said William C. Gentry, an Army reservist and Iraq veteran who works as a prosecutor in San Diego County."

My sweetheart has finally shown her true colors. After 14 years of marriage, I’ve discovered that she’s a closet Arab Supremacist. The discussion below is proof of my findings:

(Humza is H, Maryam is M, Naeem is N and my Arab Supremacist Sweetheart will be...oh wait...that doesn’t sound right. Let’s instead call her ASW for Arab Supremacist Wife – that’s better).

(Sitting in the car, looking for a way to pass the time)

N: I got a game, think of a name that starts with the letters of the alphabet. Start with A.

H: Ayah

N: B

M: Bilal

N: C

H: Cat!

(confused look on all our faces, silently praying for his future wife)

Game goes on through all the letters, until P, when no one can think of a name, so I jump in...

N: Parveen

H: Is that even a name?

N: Yeah, its my sister’s middle name

ASW: (snorts)

Then, we get stuck at U and again, I chime in with Umbreen. Then all hell breaks loose when I suggest Vaseem for the letter V:

ASW: (in her look-at-me-imitating-Naeem dorky voice) Perveen, Umbreen, Vaseem (back to her normal dorky voice) What’s with all these Paki-stanki names? (in the spirit of full disclosure, she actually said Pakistani and not paki-stanki, but I know she was thinking it)

N: What do you mean? They’re not Pakistani...they’re just normal Muslim names.

ASW: Yeah right. What’s up with Vaseem? Its supposed to be Waseem, with the Arabic ‘waw’, not the Urdu version of it ‘v’. That’s just straight up retarded. (again, she didn’t say that last part, but was definitely thinking it!)

N: Listen, certain cultures adjust the Arabic names to better suit their indigenous language. The Turks did it with Mehmet, which is the Turkish version of Mahmood or Muhammad.

ASW: Well, they’re dorks also. You wouldn’t change the pronunciation of the Quran to suit your lingual deficiencies, would you? The Arabic name is supposed to stick to the original pronunciation. Anything else is simply unacceptable.

N: Not true. What about your good buddies from Egypt (ASW's best childhood friend is Egyptian). They changed Jamal to Gamal, right? Are they dorks also?

ASW: (stunned silence)

N: (turning to Maryam, with my strongest desi accent) Vat u tink Maryam, I vill reply vith the ‘Boo-yah!’

On a serious note, I’m really intrigued by the way the different regions across the Muslim world have incorporated Arabic names into their local languages.

The Balkans are a good example with surnames like Hadžiosmanović (son of Hajji Osman) and Izetbegović (son of Chief Ezzat) and first names such as Dunja (Dunya), Ilijaz (Ilyas), Ejup (Ayub), and Yekup (Yaqub). The Turks have many as well with Ahmet (Ahmad), Murat (Murad), and Zeynep (Zainab). Africa has its own with names like Imamu (Imam), Sefu (Saif) and Mamadou (Muhammad).

Cool stuff.

(h/t to American Muslim)

UPDATE 1/9/08: Based on some comments, I felt it necessary to clarify that while I disagree with the overall undertones of this video, I have the utmost respect for those involved in its production. I'm no fan of arm-chair Muslim critics, who whine and moan about our screwed up situation without lifting a finger. May Allah (swt) bless these individuals who actually stood up and did something constructive (as much as I may disagree with their approach). Good for them!

I'm really not diggin' the vibes in this video. I feel its too... apologetic... submissive...

I understand that Muslims are in dire need of a PR makeover.

I understand that far too many media outlets seek out the bearded FOB with the broken English as representative of the entire American Muslim community.

I understand that the war on terror has made the Muslim into the 21st century Commie/Nazi/Bogeyman.

I do understand all that.

But what are we aiming to achieve with this public service spot? Is a message consisting of 'Hey look at me! I'm just as American as you. I love Britney Spears and the NFL just like every other Joe Six-Pack. Please accept me! Oh and I also cheated in high school' really worth saying?

It seriously irks me the lengths we go to in order to humanize ourselves to those hellbent on dehumanizing us.

I would much rather prefer a more substantive portrayal of Muslims in America with signs stating our hatred for the economic injustices of capitalism or the disgust for the racism ravaging American cities or intolerance for the greedy crooks running the big pharmaceuticals.

How about a video with more substance - reflecting the higher principles we stand for as opposed to the weaker image of a domesticated people asking to be accepted?

While I won't knock the MAS Media Foundation and the dedicated individuals who put this video together (May Allah continue to motivate them to help the situation of Muslims in the West), I just don't feel its necessary to show our American-ness by citing Grey's Anatomy or Justin Timberlake or Victoria's Secret.

In its defense, I liked that the video conveyed an anti-alcohol, pro-abstinence, pro-environment, pro-social justice message.

But why is showing that a young Muslim is able to rap to all of Tupac's songs so important in establishing our American Muslim identity?

Its not about integrating into society. Its about elevating society.

One final note: I don't care much for the choice of the song. Generally speaking, its a nice song, but to even remotely intimate that Muslims are in America because they see it as a Paradise is highly questionable and quite insulting. Let's not feed the Amero-centricism so prevalent in American society.

I’d like to bring everyone’s attention to Br. Yursil’s latest post. He highlights a most beautiful saying by one shaykh Muhammad Al-Yaraghi, an 18th/19th century scholar from the North Caucasus region, speaking out against the Russian incursions of the time:

"Go to the mosques, weep and pray in repentance, shake dreams from your eyes and God will forgive you and restore you to the righteous path and arm you for great deeds.

Then [after purification of their souls] Almighty God will reinforce you for the battle against the kaafir. Azrail will fly over the Russian troops, their bayonets and cannons will not be dangerous to you and you will learn that God has more power than any earthly tsar.

You must be ready when the hour comes and you are called to battle. God will give me a sign when this day has arrived and I will tell you. Meanwhile, pray and weep."

I was particularly intrigued by the timing of the quote since over the past few days, my recent Pakistan post has spurred an interesting conversation in the comments section, with one brother calling on us to quit all this nonsense chit-chatting and do something more constructive.

My response to Young Skywalker was for us to focus first and foremost on personal rectification. Our automatic response to our problems is to jump into action and implement whatever solutions our minds can construct. The Ummah has fallen into a scientific worldview which sees everything as a worldly cause and effect. Change can only come from action, we boldly declare.

Sadly we have shifted from tawakkul (trust) in Allah (swt) to relying on our actions. While we say and preach that all results are from Allah (swt), our actions speak otherwise.

Our highest goal must be to work towards refined souls focused on achieving that state of Ihsan. These souls will then become the divinely inspired fountains from which all our actions will flow.

But I must add that there needs to always be a component of action to supplement this internal cleansing process. That is why I was so impressed with the approach of Sh. Al-Yaraghi. He wasn’t simply calling for an open-ended purification of the soul. He had a long term goal which integrated the corporal with the spiritual.

How come we are forced to choose between the two extremes? We either have politically oriented groups like the Jamati Islami or the Ikhwan, whose idea of tarbiyya (self-improvement) is to learn Fiqh-us-Sunna, or we have Sufi groups who solely focus on the spiritual, leaving the political to scoundrels and the like.

Where are the Sh. Al-Yaraghi’s of our time?

For those of you living anywhere near my old stomping grounds of Baltimore, Maryland:

Al-Madina Institute is pleased to announce its first one of a kind seminar entitled “The Portrait of the Prophet.” This will be a two day in-depth look at the wonderful book, “Ash’ Shama’il Muhammadiya,” taught by Shaykh Muhammad Bin Yahya Ninowy. This event will inshaAllah be hosted at Islamic Society of Baltimore (ISB). For program details and registration information, click here.