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Here's a new blog that I found has some interesting views: A Thinking Muslim. While I may disagree with much he says, I think its always important to maintain a dialogue with those who hold contrasting views.
Marc writes an interesting post calling out those amongst us who are constantly criticizing the Muslim community for its lack of manhood (as narrowly defined by them). While I can empathize with those calling for Muslim men to start acting more like men, Marc does make a valid point that the Ummah clearly has room for variations in the way we we implement 'manhood'.
Sr. Sidra at Healing Heart has a nice post featuring a tafseer of sorts on the famous song "Row, row, row your boat". Very interesting Islamic spin on this childhood favorite.
Here is an amazingly on-point article discussing the top 3 reasons why marriages fail for men. His first point is so absolutely true - I don't even know what his other two points were. It's ALL about the nafs people. As he mentioned in the article, you MUST lay down your nafs to let it get stepped on by your wife. I just can't imagine that a loving relationship is possible without that element of forced humility.
BTW, I don't think this applies to most women, since by their very nature, they are always giving in and sacrificing for the good of the family.
And one last link for some fun. Check out this audio illusion called the Virtual Haircut. It's a bit dated (I heard it last year), but maybe some folks haven't heard it yet. Be sure to plug in your headphones (the illusion is greatly diminished with speakers) and make sure it's silent in the room. Let's see if you can go through the entire audio without laughing out loud! :-)
*Check out this site for more cool Holophonic sounds.
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BTW, I don't think this applies to most women, since by their very nature, they are always giving in and sacrificing for the good of the family.
Um, you havent seen the Baltimore women of the new generation, lol, let's just say it's the men who are always giving in and sacrificing for the good of the family :)
That virtual hiarcut was very neat. I especially got freaked when he whispered in my ear. I actually turned around to see if someone was in the room with me! SPOOKY!!!!!!
AA- Arif,
Hmmm...interesting point. I would simply reply by restating my thoughts - the man MUST get his ego stepped on. In fact, if he thinks that he's doing all the sacrificing, he needs to check his sincerity.
One can never be TOO patient and humble.
The marriage article is far too deferential to women. I think, contrary to Mr. Love over there, women assume it's a mans fault that a marriage is failing. Almighty woman can do no wrong.
AA- Sophister,
I agree that if you were asked to provide counseling to a failing marriage, you would have to look at both sides.
However, as a man trying to focus on his role in a troubled marriage, one should put aside the blame game and work solely on self-rectification.
The trials of marriage are a perfect opportunity for working on the nafs.
"I don't think this applies to most women, since by their very nature, they are always giving in and sacrificing for the good of the family."
That statement alone should win you the Spouse of the Year Award. Thanks for that!
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