tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8268156244556916801.post3402923874438324827..comments2023-10-31T15:54:05.715+03:00Comments on Naeem's Blog: Brown-Man BenefitNaeem:http://www.blogger.com/profile/15397380149160556040noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8268156244556916801.post-65934123073199811662007-09-12T01:05:00.000+03:002007-09-12T01:05:00.000+03:00Hey Naeem: I was writing to let you know that I in...Hey Naeem:<BR/> <BR/>I was writing to let you know that I intentionally used the "Brown-Man Benefit" phenomenon. In my case it is more the Religion and Sports phenomenon<BR/> <BR/>I recently went to Wal-Mart to pick up my master Grill and needed to purchase the cover to protect it from the elements etc. I came across this employee who had the name Khan on his name card. <BR/> <BR/>Now I'm one of those who do not assume that everyone who has an Arabic or Muslim sounding name is a Muslim and want to be outed by giving the the loud Salaams etc. I know from first hand experience back home where people have names like Muhammad, Ali, and Khan and they are straight up Christians. Some are even pastors and priest in the church. <BR/> <BR/>So I asked him if there are any covers for the grill. He said he did not think so and that there were sold out. I can tell he did not really want to help me. For whatever reason it was a hot day, or maybe he had a bad day, or who knows.<BR/> <BR/>So to make it easier for me to get his help, I said so your name is Khan? He said yes I said my name is Muhammad. Of course he smiles and give me a hushed salaams. So I replied in a hushed voice so as to not "out" the both of us. I'm thinking great we have something in common. So he said, come on lets take a look inside to see it they have the cover. <BR/><BR/>As we walked he asked me where I'm from. I told him the West Indies (I know this will be a hit with him because of cricket). Of course he spits out the names of all these West Indies cricket greats from the 70's and 80'. Mind you I'm no cricket fan I think it is the most boring games in the world next to Baseball. Who wants to stand all day and wait to catch a ball in the hot sun? But I urge him on by saying "those guys were the best huh" and he agreed with me.<BR/> <BR/>We reached to the shelf where the covers are suppose to be and he looked and looked and clearly they were out of it. I guess the end of the Summer season. Hey that's why I brought the Grill at this time to catch the sale. Any how he apologized and said to try back since they may get some more soon. <BR/> <BR/>So the bonus moment of the whole encounter came when he was walking me out of the store and Mr. Khan offered me a cold bottle of water from his personal cooler and said I know you can use this since it's hot out there. I said sure and shook his hand and left by saying Allah Hafiz. That's by example of "Brown-Man Benefit"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8268156244556916801.post-88920173595477716752007-08-01T08:20:00.000+03:002007-08-01T08:20:00.000+03:00MrESPY: ???? Is there a third brother in the mix ...MrESPY: ???? Is there a third brother in the mix that I can pin my hopes on? :-)<BR/><BR/>Sahra: Yeah I figured that's what you meant...but do you see this problem also present in the first gen American Muslim crowd?? <BR/><BR/>From the brothers side, although there are social circles wherein certain races/ethnicities feel most comfortable, there is alot of crossing over...how about for the sisters?Naeem:https://www.blogger.com/profile/15397380149160556040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8268156244556916801.post-47533092610733919342007-08-01T04:22:00.000+03:002007-08-01T04:22:00.000+03:00It's amazing that they give the highest respect to...It's amazing that they give the highest respect to the same people who refer to them at "donkeys with cell phones"!!! If one reads Muslim history, you'll realize that it was this behavior which has led to our defeat--"The Crusades through Arab Eyes" by Amin MaloufAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8268156244556916801.post-41139579071305470652007-07-31T18:48:00.000+03:002007-07-31T18:48:00.000+03:00Naeem, you know darn well what I meant. I get tre...Naeem, you know darn well what I meant. I get treated like a negro and maybe even less by your peeps. Even when they are nice they are condescending! I couldn't careless since I know desi like you that redeem the entire population but, you get what I'm saying. MRESPEY, I totally agree! HaaaaaaaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8268156244556916801.post-77117122546143769222007-07-31T18:03:00.000+03:002007-07-31T18:03:00.000+03:00I'll tell you what's NOT a BMB...desi women packin...I'll tell you what's NOT a BMB...desi women packing on tons of makeup for functions and come out looking like casper the ghost w/ vaseline on their skin...ughhh...<BR/><BR/>whyyyy ohhhh whyyyy...the horror...<BR/><BR/>(I have no idea why I posted this)MrEspyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02788562125193622417noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8268156244556916801.post-26742797393041657822007-07-31T17:53:00.000+03:002007-07-31T17:53:00.000+03:00Good stuff as usual. The layers of favoritism is ...Good stuff as usual. The layers of favoritism is everywhere. Funny how, a paki will help a paki before hooking up an indian muslim.(and vice versa)How both will help another paki or indian muslim before they help another muslim from a different background. How they'll help a fellow desi who's not muslim before they help a non desi muslim, etc....Good topics for Anthropologists to research and document.<BR/><BR/>As for Saudi, during Hajj, desi shopkepper or not, they all try to scam u in the stores by overcharging.<BR/><BR/>Dont be dissing Jersey, I'll take your entire Jersey audience of 5 and go to another blog!<BR/><BR/>As for ISB, well nevermind, lol.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8268156244556916801.post-76019318206548064272007-07-30T22:41:00.000+03:002007-07-30T22:41:00.000+03:00Sahra,OK, I'll bite...what are you talking about? ...Sahra,<BR/><BR/>OK, I'll bite...what are you talking about? <BR/><BR/>I wrote about the bending-over-backwards treatment that I got from my 'peeps' here in Saudi....so are you saying that you get the same treatement at Al-Rahmah? Gee, that's really great! I'm so happy for you. ;-)Naeem:https://www.blogger.com/profile/15397380149160556040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8268156244556916801.post-51587793626052956582007-07-30T22:38:00.000+03:002007-07-30T22:38:00.000+03:00Sophister,LOL!! Your problem is that all those Jer...Sophister,<BR/><BR/>LOL!! Your problem is that all those Jersey desis are crooks. They had enough money to buy a US visa but not enough to make anything of themselves...hahaha...i kid :-)<BR/><BR/>On the other hand, these guys here in the Gulf are by far very nice and very humble, especially the Sri Lankans and Bangladeshis. Those Pakis are always trouble, no matter where you go. ;-)Naeem:https://www.blogger.com/profile/15397380149160556040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8268156244556916801.post-8624960457960997322007-07-30T19:30:00.000+03:002007-07-30T19:30:00.000+03:00Naeem, I think it's high time you got a taste of y...Naeem, I think it's high time you got a taste of your own people's medicine. I go to Al Rahmah and get that same treatment every day from your peeps! Welcome to my world, bro! :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8268156244556916801.post-58565882214121236902007-07-30T18:23:00.000+03:002007-07-30T18:23:00.000+03:00You know what sucks. I live in Jersey City, in NJ,...You know what sucks. I live in Jersey City, in NJ, where there are alot of desis. So usually desis try to rip me off cuz i don't have a perfect urdu accent! I try to be nice speaking urdu w/them and it works to my disadvantage!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8268156244556916801.post-14263689498532034892007-07-30T18:01:00.000+03:002007-07-30T18:01:00.000+03:00I've witnessed what you wrote when I came to the "...I've witnessed what you wrote when I came to the "holy land" for Hajj back in '99. The racial structure you describe is quite accurate from my observation. <BR/><BR/>This sort of racial structure exist throughout the world in every society. The rungs on the ladder maybe in a different order depending on where you are. But is not so different elswhere.<BR/><BR/>I'm glad you can use it to your advantage when possible -:). Humans, Humans, Humans. <BR/><BR/>Thank GOD we are thriving for the hereafter and if we atain Junnah we all will be truly EQUAL.<BR/><BR/>Good stuff.<BR/><BR/>-F.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com